Apr 21
An Opportunity Lost
The ghost of the Babri Masjid is paying us a visit again. I remembered my time as Guruji’s secretary and dug out this article that i had written at that time from my hard disk. Here it is complete and unabridged…
The burning issue of the country was the Babri Masjid one. Through the media I was aware that His Holiness Sri Sri Ravi Shankar was involved in the negotiations with the Hindus and the Muslims. So I called up and felt quite fortunate when I got permission to accompany him for three days in Delhi. Those 3 days are still crystal clear in my mind for the amount of learning and love I experienced through Sri Sri and his interactions with a wide array of people.
One day four of us in a car, with Sri Sri in the front seat were driving down the small lane leading to the office of the All India Muslim Personal Law Board (AIMPLB). It was a tiny place with about 15 members sitting there. I was taken aback by the welcome provided there, or rather the utter lack of it. One of the members, Mr. Zaffer Zillani came forward and told us pointblank, “If you have come to talk about the Ayodhya land, forget it. Even after two hours, we will be at the same place where we begin”. The tension was palpable. But Sri Sri’s smile and perseverance, without a sense of ego whatsoever, was a big lesson for me that day on how to open communication channels in spite of overwhelming odds. Sri Sri emphasized his commitment and readiness to do anything together to bring harmony and peace among the communities. He pointed out that Ayodhya was not just an issue of the Sangh Parivar or the VHP, rather, it was a people’s issue since it touches the sentiments of crores of Hindus. He said that since the Ram idol was already there, a demand for a masjid would bring up more bitterness and make the situation more explosive. Sri Sri proposed that he would have the Hindu saints come together and express their regret for any hurt caused to the Muslim community and in turn the Muslims give the land as a bhiksha, the small piece of land which has caused so much turmoil in the country. Sri Sri’s presence and his words made a shift in the whole atmosphere. In the end before leaving, he gave a hug to each one of them.
In those 3 days, I was witness to the calmness with which Sri Sri handles people, which is so heart-warming. Only once I saw him with a hint of disappointment when all the sincere effort to create a win-win situation for both communities was not being reciprocated just because of a hardnosed and dogmatic attitude of a few. In time to come, I got to know that the request for bhiksha, which was reiterated by the Shankaracharya and Pejavarshri of uddipi, too, fell on deaf ears. The same evening Guruji met with the VHP people and was trying to convince them to drop the demand for Kashi and Mathura. He told them that if you demand Kashi, you will erase from history the nefarious acts of Aurangzeb and all the pain inflicted by him on the people of Kashi and Mathura. He said that we should maintain the status quo at Kashi and Mathura as a symbol of Aurangzeb’s tyranny. This would ensure that we do not forget history and our future generations would have a good lesson of what they should not be doing.
Here are a few excerpts of my conversation with Sri Sri:
From your level, how do you see the Personal Law Board’s refusal to accede to any compromise?
Sri Sri: I have met different members of the AIMPLB separately on various occasions. Individually they may agree to this solution but collectively they are hesitating to take a step. The common Muslim doesn’t bother at all. But for the PLB it is an ego issue, for the Hindus it is a sentimental issue.
But what about the Ayodhya land being a property of Allah in which case should the verdict be left to the Muslims or to the courts?
Sri Sri: If you truly believe and argue that the Ayodhya land is the property of Allah, then since Allah is god, he obviously belongs to everyone. In which case the Muslims can withdraw all the cases, the Hindus will directly deal with Allah. Islam anyway says that there is no one in between you and Allah. But if the court is brought in between, then whosoever the verdict goes in favor of, the winner will unfortunately be a real loser in terms of goodwill from the other community. So insisting on a court verdict only and not agreeing to settle amongst themselves is not an intelligent thing to do.
How about the many Hindus we found through surveys, who don’t care what is built there?
Sri Sri: Many intellectuals and urbanites say we will have a hospital or a peace monument there. But I tell you, emotions and sentiments are so much more stronger. For a gyani or an atheist, it doesn’t matter a lot. When a newspaper does a survey, those who reply to it fall mostly in the above category. You cannot ignore the sentiments of the rural and less educated people who can see Ram only in an idol or in a place of worship. The rural masses, constituting the vast majority of people living in India, are not adequately represented by the media or cared for their sentiments. In the hundreds of villages where our 5H work is happening, when our Yuvacharyas who go for providing health, hygiene and housing facilities, ask of the villagers what they want most; contrary to what we may think, most of them demand repairing their temples. It is there they put their faith. One has to understand the dynamics of their lives. Rural India is much more religious and sentimental. Throughout ages, people have given their lives for religion, not for science, mathematics, history or geography. For these people, the birthplace of Rama is very sacred, just as Mecca is sacred to the Muslims and Jerusalem to the Christians.
What about people who claim to be neutral?
Sri Sri: There is nothing like being neutral. Even Bhishma, Karna, etc had to choose to be on either side. Using your Viveka, intelligence, you can either be on the side of dharma or on the side of adharma. And mind you, dharma here does not mean any religion; it simply means - that which upholds the truth.
What do you say of the AIMPLB’s viewing Shankaracharya’s proposal as a veiled threat? What should be done?
Sri Sri: A true religious leader will think not just for the people of his community but also for everyone. I know Shankaracharyaji. He is not a person who would threaten anybody or even think of using threatening words. Perceiving his letter as a veiled threat or a person like the Shankaracharya himself as a threat shows an unwillingness to reach an understanding. I feel that from an uncompromising state, if you don’t want to come into an understanding, then you can squarely accuse anybody of anything. About what should be done, I think it is time we have to move away from the blame culture. We blame the communities, both the Hindu and Muslim, we blame the entire community for the job of a few, and we blame the police, the government, the media, our courts and the judicial system. We have started blaming our educationalists and historians. Now we have not even spared the Archeological Survey of India (ASI). In spite of the ASI agreeing to all the demands of the AIMPLB, like employing Muslim laborers and supervisor at the disputed site, yet discarding their report now when it is not in favor of them is a clear indication of a heads-I-win-tails-you-lose attitude.
Recently I heard Syed Shahbuddin bitterly accusing you of misleading people by your book ‘Hinduism and Islam, the common thread’, saying it is immature and unscholarly and warned the Muslims against you?
Sri Sri (smiles and says): To do that is his job! My job is to unite. I do welcome critics. I never claimed I am a scholar. ‘Hum to dhai akshar wale hai’. We must realize that there definitely exists a common thread among all religions. Putting one religion superior to other will only cause resentment. Pulling on the common thread will bring people together. Making people irreligious is not the solutions either. You have to honor religion and lift them towards spirituality where all religions meet. That is the purpose of the booklet.
I understand that the land in Ayodhya does not have much historical or religious significance to the Muslims, even then, how would the Muslims have gained mileage by donating the land to the Hindus?
Sri Sri: Many historic events from the atrocities of Aurangzeb to the sacrifices by the Sikh Gurus, Jinaah’s uncompromising attitude to the Mahatma’s plea, and the forced exodus of the Kashmiri Pandits have definitely left some scars about the Muslim community in the psyche of the people. At this juncture, when the world over, terrorism and bomb blasts have been unfortunately associated with Islam, a gift of the land would have shown the magnanimity of the Muslims and earned a lot of goodwill for the Muslim community. But that golden opportunity of goodwill is lost. Now that the ASI findings have been made public, saying that their report is concocted indicates a lack of foresight and wisdom. In the Upanishads it is said, ‘give with faith, give without faith’, somehow you give. Sometimes you give a gift out of love for the other person. The second type of gift is when you may not give out of love but give just to make the other person happy. The third type is when you give so that you prevent a problem for yourself. A fourth type is when you give a gift because if you don’t give, you don’t keep up with your image. Giving a gift in any of these categories is good for you. In the Babri Masjid case, I told them that by not giving, you are actually aiding those that you do not favor.
5000 years ago, Duryodhana, stuck in his own ego had said “O Krishna, not even a needle-point of space will I part with without war”. Hearing the spokesman of the AIMPLB, Mohammed Rabey Nadwi proclaiming on Aajtak, “not an inch of space will we give you”, do you see a similarity with what Duryodhana had said to Krishna and a classic case of history repeating itself?
Sri Sri smiles and says: “I hope not
Jai Gurudev!
love
Dinesh












Indeed this was an opportunity lost. As a Muslim and more importantly an Indian and also a citizen of the world, I truly believe that magnanimity directly or indirectly benefits the giver as well as the receiver.
It is also sad that the politicians instead of focusing on real issues like education (or lack of), poverty, etc. focus on religion and cast.
Thanks for sharing.
Love and JGD,
Murtaza
Muslims wherever they go are in conflict with other faiths.. There is no space for other faiths in Muslim teachings.. atleast the contemporary teachings.. I dont know if it is written in Koran for Muslim brothers to do so.. I doubt.. but Muslims everywhere on this planet are undergoing tremendous radicalisaiton (Wahabbi). Muslims in India and South east asia had a cultural identity of their own until a few decades ago.. Everything has chaned rapidly in last decade and half thanks to the Madarassas funded and groomed by gulf nations.
I agree it was an opportunity for Muslims but they seem too busy to serve jehadi agenda.. there was ana opportunity its lost but i hope it isnt forever..
isnt it disgusting that educated Muslims are just letting their community down?
I mean isnt there even a single muslim mass leader willing to shepherd the community from the mess that they are in!!
Excellent!!
Indeed Guruji has great skill to negotiate with wisdom, logic and talk with complete calmness and love.
JGD
Manish
That was a beauty…..Dinesh Dada…Really happy to see u back with a bang on the blogosphere…….


And Really Really thanx for sharing….:-)
Keep Sharing more of such stories and incidents…We all love to hear (err… read )them (on the blog..)and learn from them everytime..
Love,Jai Gurudeva
Swapnil
thank you so much for bringing out a clear perspective on the whole issue. jgd.
I had read this some time ago . Amazed by how Gurudev handles all situation so beautifully . There is an impeccable balance bet intellect and emotions.
Nicely written.
love
Jai Gurudeva
Juhi
amazingly superb answers by gurudev!!!!!
Dearest Bau and Dinesh bhaiya,
and more enthusiastic towards seva!! What an awesome experience it must be to watch Sri Sri handling work.. rather Watching Sri Sri is an awesome experience always!! 
Every time I read a story about Guruji, it makes so me more soft and humble
Love.
Jai Gurudev.
After a long time what a post u have given MIND BLOWING !!!
It is said clearly a common man of all releigions believes in unity n prosperity but a politician believes in divide rule greedy people i hope politicians read this n understands what a common man wants!!!!
This also made me think the plight the people would have undergone the trauma during the demolition of BABRI MASJID
JGD
Sudha.P
My god, you get to have such conversations with guruji?. How lucky!
I WAS SCARED TO READ IT OUT……..
IT REALLY KILLS THE INNOCENCE……..
AND IT PAINS ME THAT WE (OOPS!!!) ‘”I” HAVE TO THINK AND ACT ON SUCH ISSUES…………….
AND PLEASE KEEP POSTING DINESH DA!!!
finally we get a post from you after ages and ages dinesh da… am still quite amazed at the way Guruji handles such situations .. well its not the people or communities to blame for the masjid case but just petty politics and ofcourse the divisive policies of the government.. i agree with most of the points of Guruji.. JGD and keep posting
I happened to pick up a book called ‘Ayodhya: The Case Against the Temple’ to get informed on this issue. The author has many interesting observations on how the conflict has been handled.
After reading your post, I did an online search and found the author’s website with the full text of the book except the last chapter which I am yet to read.
http://koenraadelst.voiceofdharma.com/books/acat/index.htm
Good Intentions, Perseverence and creativeness !
You have shared with us such precious things Dineshji !
Our Guruji takes up such challenges and always with a smile ..
Amazingg!!!
Islam is a disease on this planet. In India alone, they have demolished more than 2000 temples and built mosques. 99.99% of terrorism in the world in islamic. A muslim cannot be a good muslim if he doesnot support the cause of Jihad on non-muslims.
They are like virus. They go to a place and start multiplying. They came from middle-east. Now they have one pakistan, one bangladesh and another pakistan within India.
I was in awe of Guruji’s calm and cool composure even in such a heated up environment and the kind of insight and depth along with the foresight for both the sides is simply awesome. the part about linking people and uniting them rather than point out the differences throws light on from what level Guruji’s thinking starts! thank you for sharing this article with us i’m sure we would not have read it otherwise. jgd
Thanks Ajit, for the wonderful link.
this article is particularly interesting:
http://koenraadelst.voiceofdharma.com/articles/irin/genocide.html
I wonder how we know so little about our own history
and anyways how to know the fact from the fiction.
Bhaiyya, what is your opinion abt this.
Thanks, JGD.
It is so wonderful to see the space of belongingness Guruji comes from. His love and compassion for all is so genuine and complete and hence so devoid of judgments. He truly believes that in a one world family all issues can be resolved through dialogue that upholds the human values and respect and dignity to all peoples and religions. Success in any dialogue is not measured in the desired outcome, but rather in a shift of consciousness in the people engaged in the dialogue.
Jai Gurudev!
rekha
Raj, the article seems to throw up many questions, but I personally believe it is wise to not dwell too much on the past. I think what a lot of us truly intend at this point of time is to preserve the tradition of wisdom that has come down through the ages in this country. Knowing history is good to avoid the past mistakes, but it would be unfortunate if someone takes it to heart.
To that extent, even the works of people like Koenraad Elst should be taken with a pinch of salt since we really don’t have much evidence for a lot of claims made on either side. The book I mentioned has a lot of unknown information that goes against the conventional media-created notions of Indian nationalism (I prefer this to Hindu nationalism). But on closer reading, he suggests certain radical solutions which are not truly in line what Guruji would want. It would be good to keep this in mind lest we get carried away by raw sentiments.
Dinesh Bhaiya, what’s you take on this?
Aaj tak kisi ka achcha hua hai kya Guruji ki baat na maan kar ??
“Give with faith; give without faith” but somehow give !
Wow ! I just loved this one
so Kashi and Mathura can be left aside as reminder of Aurangzeb’s atrocities. I also found this website as a good way for reminder of atrocities on Hindus:-
http://hinduholocaust.com/HinduHolocaustMuseum.htm
And this is about Babri Masjid. What about the seventh wonder, the great attraction of tourists to India, the Taj Mahal ! Apparantly it is actually a Shiva temple built by a Hindu king 300 years before Shahjahan, and it was called Tejo Mahalaya… here is one article:-
http://thecandideye.wordpress.com/2009/04/13/tajmahal-a-hindu-temple/
What is your opinion about Taj Mahal’s true history.
I am just amazed at Guruji’s understanding of……and the leadership…
Thanks a lot for posting this….
- Parimal
Wonderful..guruji is truly masterful. Thanks for sharing
JGD
Bhaskar
Yes not a inch of land… How about giving Kashmir to Pakistan, that will really solve the India Pakistan issue. It will also create a lots of goodwill about India…!
And pray tell me how it will solve the issue? And also how it will create goodwill for India? Please substantiate your comment. Either you have thought a lot and stumbled upon something we all (including Guruji) have missed, or you are severely intellectually challenged or you are a traitor to India.
Jai Gurudeva!
love
bawa
LOL ..
loved your comment bau ..
Excellent post dinesh bhaiya .. !!
Nice to see you back .. dint realise it was you writing until the ur sign off ..
Jai Gurudev!
thanx for such a xcellent post.i really dont understad y there has been such a hue n cry 4 one babri demolition???? what abt d thousands of temples which hav been destroyed in d kashmir.
Jai Gurudeva Dinesh Dada
Wonderful post. Recently, I attended another advanced course at Indore that was taken by Vinaya ma. After reading this post and listening to Guruji’s last knowledge tape in which he says “still, if you can’t solve a problem, give it to me”, I am sure he has come on the earth to prove “Yada yada hi dharmasya, glanir bhavati bharatha, Abhyuthanama dharmasya, Tadatamanam srijamyaham”.
This article is one of the best set of words I’ve ever read anywhere before.