Jun 29

QnA – 25

Q. Hello Bhaiya, I am working in Cameroon west Africa in a import export company. I want to became an art of living teacher but I really care for my company where I have started working since 7 years. I am confused whether to leave this job & sometimes thinks about my family. which direction u can give me? Waiting to hear from u.

A. Become a teacher and continue to work in Cameroon. The great part of Art of Living is you can get over the tyranny of the “or” and enjoy the luxury of the “and”!! πŸ™‚

Q. I’m regular reader of this Q&A page and I want to know if there is any means / process by practicing which we can develop forgiveness in our nature . I am not able to forgive anybody easily and thus every time I am roaming in past and could not remain happy long.

A. Assume that forgiveness is already part of your nature. All good qualities are already there within you in seed form. When you assume that you are a forgiving person, and put a bit of attention on that aspect of yourself, it will blossom and grow. Live into the reality that you are indeed the type of person you wish to become.

Q. I am student of engg. in NIT. I had friend in first year who later turned against meΒ  and he always tries to make fun of me. I feel very awkward in this position. I do not want to abuse him or so and I also know he is not going to be friend again. Please help me out.

A. Don’t become a football of his opinions or actions. Understand that things change… and may change again and again. Don’t let these petty things or for that matter people affect you. You be strong with your Sadhana, Seva and Satsang… Just laugh and move on.

Q. I have two questions for you, please answer them – both of them regarding marriage.

-> How much importance would you attribute to the “inclination/intent” of bride and groom to marry each in a marriage to the other factors like parental pressure, finance, caste and age which at times influence the marriage more than the inclination of the bride and groom which gets sidelined?

A. If bride and groom are both not inclined, they should preferably not get married. Unless they are really sure about the choice of their parents πŸ™‚ At the same time don’t be so foolish as to immediately discount the person your respective parents have chosen for you, simply because the parents have chosen πŸ™‚

-> Should a girl or boy marry somebody just for the sake of their parent’s wish/force/love (or a promise) rather than their own and giving up their right to choose their life partner ? Or marriage should a bride marry a groom just because her parents want her to and she can’t disgrace them ?

A. No. Not at all. Choose your life partner well, even if it means not listening to your parents. Don’t confuse obedience to your parents with love and respect for your parents. You may at certain points in life, utterly disagree and disobey your parents while totally loving and respecting them! I have, quite a few times πŸ™‚

Don’t bother about disgrace. All those relatives don’t have to get live with this person they wish you to get married to. You do. So go ahead make a choice and the patiently and skillfully convince your family that this choice is the best one!

Pray to Guruji for guidance, I would suggest you come to Ashram and seek Him blessings for your match. Then there is a very high probability that things will go well in the future πŸ™‚

Jai Gurudeva!



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24 Responses to “QnA – 25”

  1. Antariksh says:

    Will all the Yes!+ Advance course be conducted only in Bangalore Ashram?

  2. Anshika says:

    **Live into the reality that you are indeed the type of person you wish to become.

    Superb! πŸ™‚

  3. Sriram says:

    Wah!!! Kya baat hai … bahut sahi likhte ho!!!

  4. Anshul says:

    the best is the first onw πŸ˜‰

  5. mukta says:

    jai gurudev bawa!!

    i am feeling greedy..
    i want to read more and more on your blog!!!!!!!!!!!
    it has world’s highest quality………
    but i want quantity also……..
    and i want it…………

  6. Swapnil says:

    First Answer is just brilliant πŸ™‚
    Love,Jai Gurudeva πŸ™‚
    Swapnil πŸ™‚

  7. SK says:

    Jai Gurudev
    Got this fwd. Something that reminded me of the course point in DSN.

    Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day?
    Unless you’re the Terminator, for an instant you’re probably set back on your heels.

    However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly she/he can get back her focus on what’s important.

    Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson.
    I learned it in the back of a New York City taxi cab.
    Here’s what happened. I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station.
    We were driving in the right lane when all of a sudden, and I mean without warning, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us.
    My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded and missed the other car’s back end by just inches.

    Here’s what happened next.
    The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us.
    How do I know? Ask any New Yorker, some words in New York come with a special face.
    Now, here’s what blew me away. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy.
    And I mean, he was friendly. So, I said, “Why did you just do that?
    This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!”
    And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, “The Law of the Garbage Truck.”

    Many people are like garbage trucks.
    They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment.
    As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they’ll dump it on you.

    When someone wants to dump on you, don’t take it personally.
    You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. You’ll be hap! py you d id. I guarantee it.
    So this was it: The “Law of the Garbage Truck.” I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me?
    And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at home, on the streets?
    It was that day I said, “I’m not going to do it anymore.”

    I began to see garbage trucks. Like in the movie “The Sixth Sense,” the little boy said, “I see Dead People.” Well now “I see Garbage Trucks.” I see the load they’re carrying. I see them coming to drop it off. And like my Taxi Driver, I don’t make it a personal thing; I just smile, wave, wish them well, and I move on.

  8. Manish says:

    nice story πŸ™‚

  9. Amarja says:

    It makes me smile whenever i come across such contrasts – questions on marriage asked to an unmarried person (pun intended). My grandma’s favourite advice to anybody with any kind of marriage related problem was – ‘do hanumanji’s pradakshina for 40 days without fail, you will get married!!’ we would be like…. poor hanumanji, what does he know about marrige!!! To get one couple together, he almost burnt his tail πŸ™‚

  10. Monica Tiwari says:

    QnAs are definitely one of my favourite posts πŸ™‚
    Love πŸ™‚

  11. Satish says:

    I asked guruji about forgiveness too. He said, Think of the other person with whom you are angry as a rag of doll. Pulled and swayed by circumstances beyond his/her control. As long as you continue to think a person to be responsible for your miseries you wont be able to forgive them. Think that the stars and universe made him to act/behave a certain way. Then your anger will shift towards the stars, and how long can you stay angry at the stars? He ended this with a wink. Our guru is cool !

  12. archan says:

    i have done the yes+ course.i want to know what happens in a yes+ dsn course as i want to do it

  13. Kinjal Dalal says:

    bawa n dinesh


    u knw wat i have started bcming angry….ofcourse in a appropraite manner…
    how good it is to shw or express lil bit of anger……

    i think it is normal ……as we r humans…. πŸ™‚

    but i want to knw do u express..ur anger….or rather do u feel angry may b on ur ownself???

    wiered Q inist it???



  14. roma says:

    Hi… bhaiya,,
    I m yes participant…. haven’t yet seen you… but heard a lot about u… u inspire me to a great extent…. even i want to be a yes+ teacher wen i grow up…. but i hesitate to do new things on my own…. i cant express wat have i got from yes course to my buddies…. they think i m fool wen i start telling about AOL…. they say all these courses r bullshit… and i cant bear this.. i just break up with my buddies wen they speak ill of AOL…… and also i have a guy friend…. he is a simple and nice guy… but after a long term friendship….. i feel diff 4 him,,,,, something more than frnship…. i told him about this,,,, he says take ur time. these feelings ll soon end up… and even i want to get rid of these feelings soon…. but retain him as my buddy… i m confused….. i become restless wen i speak to him these days…..

  15. Fatema Wahab says:

    Jai Guru Dev!

  16. kunal says:

    Jai Guru Dev Bauuuu… πŸ™‚
    Hw r u ..??
    Had an amazing day (yesterday) wth guruji..!!
    we were 8 ppl in maruti 800 car… n our car brokdown while we were chasing him.. n suddenly ..dnt noe 4m were mechanic came.. 4 car stopd to help us .. aol ppl cars.. its was lyk .. every thng happnd automatically.. !! πŸ™‚
    dat too to ol new yes+ graduates πŸ˜›
    new students were lyk … guruji guruji guruji guruji guruji guruji guruji guruji … πŸ˜›

    we also did 20 min yoga n 20 min meditation wth him n dat to at aims with all great doc.
    AMAZINGGgGgGgGgGgG… He iz jst AMAZING..!!
    Had a Gr8 Tym … n this tym bau i wll drive ur car.. ipllzzz..!! πŸ™‚
    miss u a lot.. dying 2 meet u ..!!
    hope 2 c u soon.. πŸ™‚
    jai guru dev.. πŸ™‚

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