Q. Hello Bhaiya, I am working in Cameroon west Africa in a import export company. I want to became an art of living teacher but I really care for my company where I have started working since 7 years. I am confused whether to leave this job & sometimes thinks about my family. which direction u can give me? Waiting to hear from u.
A. Become a teacher and continue to work in Cameroon. The great part of Art of Living is you can get over the tyranny of the “or” and enjoy the luxury of the “and”!! 🙂
Q. I’m regular reader of this Q&A page and I want to know if there is any means / process by practicing which we can develop forgiveness in our nature . I am not able to forgive anybody easily and thus every time I am roaming in past and could not remain happy long.
A. Assume that forgiveness is already part of your nature. All good qualities are already there within you in seed form. When you assume that you are a forgiving person, and put a bit of attention on that aspect of yourself, it will blossom and grow. Live into the reality that you are indeed the type of person you wish to become.
Q. I am student of engg. in NIT. I had friend in first year who later turned against me and he always tries to make fun of me. I feel very awkward in this position. I do not want to abuse him or so and I also know he is not going to be friend again. Please help me out.
A. Don’t become a football of his opinions or actions. Understand that things change… and may change again and again. Don’t let these petty things or for that matter people affect you. You be strong with your Sadhana, Seva and Satsang… Just laugh and move on.
Q. I have two questions for you, please answer them – both of them regarding marriage.
-> How much importance would you attribute to the “inclination/intent” of bride and groom to marry each in a marriage to the other factors like parental pressure, finance, caste and age which at times influence the marriage more than the inclination of the bride and groom which gets sidelined?
A. If bride and groom are both not inclined, they should preferably not get married. Unless they are really sure about the choice of their parents 🙂 At the same time don’t be so foolish as to immediately discount the person your respective parents have chosen for you, simply because the parents have chosen 🙂
-> Should a girl or boy marry somebody just for the sake of their parent’s wish/force/love (or a promise) rather than their own and giving up their right to choose their life partner ? Or marriage should a bride marry a groom just because her parents want her to and she can’t disgrace them ?
A. No. Not at all. Choose your life partner well, even if it means not listening to your parents. Don’t confuse obedience to your parents with love and respect for your parents. You may at certain points in life, utterly disagree and disobey your parents while totally loving and respecting them! I have, quite a few times 🙂
Don’t bother about disgrace. All those relatives don’t have to get live with this person they wish you to get married to. You do. So go ahead make a choice and the patiently and skillfully convince your family that this choice is the best one!
Pray to Guruji for guidance, I would suggest you come to Ashram and seek Him blessings for your match. Then there is a very high probability that things will go well in the future 🙂