Q. Below is 76th page of Guruji’s book Celebrating Silence.
With whom do you really feel comfortable and at ease?
You feel comfortable with someone who does not question your love, someone who takes for granted that you love them. If someone doubts your love and you constantly have to prove it, this becomes a heavy burden on you.When someone doubts you love, they start questioning you and demanding explanations for all your actions. Explaining everything you do is a burden. Your nature is to shed burdens, so when your love is questioned, you do not feel comfortable.
When you question the reason behind an action, you are asking for justice for yourself and you create a distance.Your whole intention is to come close, but asking for justice creates a distance.When someone asks for explanation they are speaking from doership and are imposing that doership on you. This brings discomfort.
If someone is just there with you, a part of you, they do not question you. They are like your arm. There is a thorough understanding and questions do not arise. Neither demand an explanation or give an explanation.
You are a witness to all your actions. You are as much a stranger to your own actions as you are to someone else’s actions. You are the eternal witness.
Based on this i have a doubt. Does this mean that when anyone asks us why we did something we need not give any explanation or answer?
A. There are many levels of Being. If someone and you exist on the level that Guruji is talking about, they are not even going to ask you a question. But if your boss/girl friend/wife/student etc are asking you some question or for an explanation, then please give it… Like right now i am answering you 🙂